Navigating the career clarification or transition process can be overwhelming. This is a time when it can feel like your life and even your future is out of your control. In this multi-part blog series, I will share insights and coaching tips on how to feel more in control back during this process.In this first blog, we will examine why we why can feel out of control of our own lives.
The FallacyThere are two components to what is known as the Fallacy of Control:
Locus of ControlIn psychology, the fallacy is called the “locus of control” and defined as the “degree to which we do and don’t believe we have control over the outcome of events in our lives.” The person who believes that they can (or should be able to) influence all events and outcomes in their life is said to have a strong or dominant internal locus of control. At the other extreme is the person who believes they have no control over most everything that happens. They are said to have a strong or dominant external locus of control. You can measure where you fall on the locus of control continuum by taking the Locus of Control assessment.
Both extremes can be emotionally unhealthy. The goal is to establish a balanced locus of control with a realistic view of what you do and don’t have control over. The truth is that there are certain areas of life that you do have control over and some you do not. When you are aware of what you can and cannot influence, you can develop more realistic expectations which will help you stop feeling stuck, powerless, or out of control. You will know how, where and on what
to focus your effort and what you can let go or not beat yourself up about.
As a trained life coach and a certified holistic narrative career and life clarification professional, I help clients identify where a control fallacy might be impeding their ability to move forward or successfully obtain a life or career goal. This process is guided by the OneLife Tools Becoming Empowered & Proactive in Your Career & Life Choices model. Through the use of reflective questioning, Cognitive Behavior Therapy and Mindset interventions and tools, I can help clients in the initial coaching stages break free from limiting thoughts and behaviors to obtain the career and life that they truly want and deserve.
Contact me at 970-481-3528 or firstname.lastname@example.org to learn how I can support your career or life transition.
Nikki Stansfield is trained as a professional coach and loves to support anyone who wants to intentionally create something meaningful within their professional lives.